The Key to Success in 5 Practical Steps

by | Sep 5, 2022 | Success | 0 comments

How often have you wondered what success could look like for you? Is it the house of your dreams, your dream job, lots and lots of money, or a simple happy life?

In this post we take time to consider the key to success. We explore what this may look like for YOU and discover 5 practical steps that YOU can choose to take to achieve YOUR success.

Success is one of those words that can be both factual and subjective and can lead to a whole range of emotions and questions. What is success? How do we see success? What is the measure of success? Can success be measured? Is success important ? How would success make you feel? Is it invigorating, scary, motivating, challenging exciting?

Success means different things to different people, and if we don’t have a clear definition of what success looks like, how will we ever be able to achieve it?

 So do we need to define Success?

I think as individuals we need to define what success is for ourselves. It is not for companies like ours to say to people, this is success. But, defining our success is not always easy.

As people we often know when we are not happy, that we are seeking more, but knowing what that more is and how to get there are two questions that can be a challenge for many of us to answer.

There is a certain complexity to success and as a result an individual definition of what success looks like will differ considerably from one person to the next. Just think about when you used the word last. It could be that a sale had been successful at work, a client that you had been working with for some time, had agreed on their purchase. It could be that you are buying a new house, and your offer has been accepted. But equally it could be the screw that you were putting into the wall to hold up the picture you just bought, went in perfectly and the picture, now hung, is a success.

When I am looking to understand a word, my starting point is often the Thesaurus. If I put a word in that I am wanting to contextualise, it can be a great place to start.

The Thesaurus tells me success means “achievement, accomplishment, victory, triumph, feat, realisation, winner, star”. All of these seem reasonable do they not?

I am particularly intrigued by realisation, and in turn the Thesaurus tells me this is “understanding, comprehension, consciousness, awareness, recognition, insight” and mysteriously apprehension?

I feel that over the years, and there have. for me, been several of these, I have heard the words realisation, awareness and success put together in the same sentences. He/she had a sudden realisation of their success for example and I feel that this is important when we consider what success is and how we achieve it.

The English Dictionary, another go to, one I was trained to use from an early age tells me success is:-

“The accomplishment of an aim or purpose.”

But it goes on to warn that there is a thin line between success and failure. May be apprehension is starting to make sense, and there is no doubt that failure is synonymous with success. We could ask the question here can failures become successful?

It also tells me

“The attainment of fame, wealth or social status”. Again, an example is provided “her success owed more to hard work than luck”

“A person or thing that achieves desired aims or attains fame, wealth, is another description provided.”

Finally, it provides ‘The archaic’ explanation of ‘the good or bad outcome of an understanding’

Then we have Wikipedia, another source of information that it is well used. Here Wikipedia describes success as the ‘state or condition of meeting a defined range of expectations. It may be viewed as the opposite of failure.’ There are also a number of papers listed about the different types of success, such as financial success, family success, job success. All of which are trying to provide the definition of success for those of us who need to know.

I feel other important questions may include the key to success in life, the key to success in business and the key to success at work all of which are sought by many of us at various stages of our lives and probably the most important question, the grail of questions for many people in their search for success is whether success is the key to happiness. Unfortunately I would have to say that success is not the key to happiness, but I do feel that conversely happiness can be the key to success for many people, most especially if they are searching for happiness in their life.

So there is no doubt that there is a level of complexity attached to a question that so many people ask as they seek their ideal life, their dream, but though all of the statements and words above have started to contextualise what the word success may mean, it still for me fails to define success. I personally think and some of you may agree with me, and some of you of course will not, that the reason that success is not defined by any of these sources is that we all have different pictures of what success will be for us and that by seeking the answer through these and other sources we are looking in the wrong place. We are looking outside of ourselves, when the answer is within.

The only person I feel who can define success is YOU

So where to begin? In order to find success we need to know what it is that we are looking for, so.

#1 The first practical step to success starts with YOUR emotions, your resilience and personal strength. We need to ensure that our thinking is positive, that challenges are seen as opportunities. That we concentrate on the positives in our lives no matter how small they may be at this time. When we carry around a lot of negative thoughts, and have a negative mindset to events that are happening around us, or when we react negatively to events and let those negative thoughts predominate in our thinking, then we are preventing success. A lot of the time we do not even know we are doing it. It won’t seem unreasonable to talk about the rising cost of living, the difficulties in paying bills, or providing for our families and not being able to enjoy the simple pleasures in life such as the occasional takeaway or night out with friends. It can be the same if we are trying to lose weight and we are getting cross with ourselves when we eat more than we intended and consequently fail to hit our target for the week. All of these negative thought patterns need to change. We need to see the positives in what is around us, what are we grateful for. This does not need to be complex, it does not need to be something huge. It just needs to be positive. So it could be the rain that comes that sustains the planet, the people, the animals rather than the rain that is making us wet. it could be the love of our family or friends. It could be that we have decided to look for a new job, rather than concentrating on the aspects of the job we are not enjoying. Take 2 minutes and write done 10 things that are negative at this time in your life. Now change them into a positive, or if you find this impossible write down 10 things that are positive in your life. Each time you catch yourself thinking negatively, notice. Don’t get cross with yourself, just notice, and start to think about the positives in your life, no matter how small they may be. Each day when you wake up, when you are getting dressed, getting washed or cleaning your teeth, think about the positives in your life, the positives around you. Yes, to begin with this will be difficult for some of YOU. it can be difficult for all of us. But our emotional resilience and our ability to control our thinking towards the positive more than the negative is the first practical step towards YOUR SUCCESS! know that every positive that you can thinik is building your resilience and personal strength and leading you closer to understanding and achieving YOUR SUCCESS.

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So can the little things in life, the simple things in life mean success?

Yes, they can. Never let anyone tell you that your success is not a success. If you have been working towards something no matter how simple and you achieve it, and you feel great, then you have success! If your baby has taken his/her first steps, that is a success. If you have completed everything you needed to do and you are sat down in time for the start of that programme you wanted to watch, that is success. Equally if you have been offered the job of your dreams, that is success and if you have passed your exams and had your University of College place confirmed, that is success.

Is success the end result or the journey or both?

This is a question that I often ask myself. And to be honest, I’m not sure if there is a right or wrong answer. For me, success is definitely a combination of both. The end result is important, but so is the journey.

The end result is important because it is what we are working towards. It is the goal that I had in mind and what drives me to keep going even when things get tough. But at the same time, the journey is important because it is how I got there. It is the experiences that I had along the way and it is what shaped me, my ideas and the person I have become.

If you think about an actual journey. Sometimes you can get straight from A to B on the route that you planned, but as can often happen, there will be a diversion, some road works, or a quick stop that needs to be made.

If you arrive at your destination, then does it really matter the route that you took?

One of the key factors of success is being kind to yourself, celebrating the wins in life, no matter where they came from, or how they come about.

I am not suggesting for one moment that we should aim lower than we are capable of achieving, but we should be realistic in the goals that we set to measure our achievement by.

But what is the measure of success?

There are many ways that people measure success. Some of the common indicators can include financial security, personal satisfaction, professional achievements, and making a positive impact on others. But what financial security is for one person, will not be for another. Some people may define financial success as being able to keep a roof over their heads, feed their family, and pay all their bills. If they can do this, they have financial success. But someone else, will say that for them financial success means a minimum income of £100,000 per year. Here we have too different measures. Which is success?

The answer is, both are, because the definition of success in each case was met. The key would therefore seem to be having our own definition of success.

 

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